What’s a time you followed your gut and it turned out to be exactly right?

I have terrible luck in relationships. And honestly? I think the universe has a specific algorithm for this, it detects when I’m not ready and immediately sends someone who’s also not ready but doesn’t know it yet.

My someone

I met this guy in a game. We started chatting there, nothing serious, just normal banter, no feelings, no subtext. At least on my end. But for him? Apparently it was something else entirely. He started with sweet gestures, treating me like I was someone special. And I’m not gonna lie, I felt it. That stupid butterfly-in-the-stomach feeling that I, someone who is neither socially nor romantically active, had completely forgotten existed.

It was… comforting, actually.

We started sharing stories. Dreams, flaws, the messy in-between stuff. I liked that he was making time for me. I’m not someone who talks a lot, but I notice everything, every action, every shift in energy, every thing that doesn’t quite add up.

And slowly, things started not adding up.

He was clingy with other female gamers. Always on calls with them, exchanging stories, being buddy-buddy. I told myself not to overthink it. But something felt off, like we only existed in a controlled environment. Nobody in the game knew about us. He never mentioned me. And the weirdest thing? He’d get visibly upset whenever I messaged him privately on Discord.

Sweet in the game chat. Weird and distant in DMs.

He had a private server for the game, and he made a special channel just for the two of us, where he’d go back to being sweet again. A little pocket of tenderness, hidden from everyone. When I asked why he hated my private messages, he said his sister uses his Discord and might see it.

I believed him. I went along with the setup.

But my gut was screaming.

Then I heard a female voice during one of our calls.

And that was it, I started connecting every dot I’d been collecting for weeks. The odd excuses. The weird boundaries. The controlled sweetness. All of it.

So I asked him directly: Are you in a relationship? Are you married? Are you living with someone?

He denied it. Then a few days later, he casually dropped that he was actually living under the same roof with his ex-wife, but he told me, “Don’t worry, we’re planning to get a legal divorce, so it’s fine.”

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I sat there like, oh crap.

Why am I like this. Why do I keep attracting people who are somewhere in the middle of something, mid-situationship, mid-divorce, mid-whatever, and I’m just here, minding my business, trying to play a game.

Certified red flag magnet. Apparently it’s my personality trait now. We ended not so peacefully.

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